Here are some indicators to help you identify cult figure traits of control, manipulation, intimidation, and unresolved sexual lust issues in a male pastor (primarily) or other spiritual leader. Many times these same leaders are actually "novices" who left their learning too soon because of misguided ambition or an unwillingness to submit to instruction in humility under another so they could be properly trained, and it has now caught up to them years later.
These ministers use excuses such as they were being held back or that God told them to go and that he would instruct them personally to justify starting their ministries. These novices masquerading as "salty veterans" often pattern and align themselves with other bad example celebrity ministers they desire to be like. They can start off seeming very sincere and successful but their hidden character issues will begin to surface and undermine their gifting no matter how great it is if they are still unwilling to submit to the guidance and wisdom of other more mature and seasoned leaders for correction and help. They make demands or requirements of others to submit to them but have never done so themselves in the same manner they are seeking others to do unto them; which is hypocrisy.
1st TIMOTHY 3:1 & 6; "This is a true saying, If a man desire the office of a bishop, he desireth a good work. 6) Not a novice, lest being lifted up with pride he fall into the condemnation of the devil." #NOVICE
1) If he makes frequent references to the sexuality or bodies of women and enjoys openly talking about how to sexually please a woman, but tries to make it sound spiritual. This is used to project a sensual aspect of himself to make the women in the congregation desire him or at least fantasize about being with him sexually to satisfy his own ego. Sometimes it works on men too. This tactic is well known to all "playas & pimps" in the streets, and works to near perfection in the church. This is how they create potential "side pieces" and future replacements for their wife if they are married, and in the event she comes to her senses to realize she is sleeping with the enemy.
2nd TIMOTHY 3:6; "For of this sort are they which creep into houses, and lead captive silly women laden with sins, led away with divers lusts". #PIMPING
2) He uses his authority and platform to tell single women stupid unsound advice with no scripture to back it up that only helps keeps them single and lonely. An example of this would be something such as telling a woman she is only to court or marry her "mystery man" only if he prophetically knows some secret thing about her that only God knows. She'll have cobwebs a plenty and won't even care to know what "Victoria's Secret" is for herself let alone care if the man knows her secret after waiting that long unless she marries "Sherlock Holmes".
This is how he creates and protects his fan base and personal "church harem" with modern day concubines (see #1). Don't ever let anybody tell you to do something they themselves don't practice or haven't proven especially when they are married and going home to someone each night as they please. This manipulation also extends to married women in order to make himself more sexually desirable to them than their husbands. Even the apostle Paul didn't do that, and its recorded in scripture with no "special secret" you need to know as if pulled out of a cereal box to get a husband.
1st CORINTHIANS 7:6-9; "But I speak this by permission, and not of commandment. 7) For I would that all men were even as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that. 8) I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I. 9) But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn." #PASTORING
3) He uses slick (sometimes made-up) words, fancy or highly fashionable clothing, and physical gyrations to project a phony supernatural status and non-existent spiritual power to put others in awe of his person. This type of behavior entices married women to be more faithful to him than to their own husbands, causes single women to secretly desire him for themselves, manipulates both men & women into willingly doing just about anything he would ask of them from sexual favors to washing his car, picking up his dry cleaning, offering their professional services to him for free as his personal divine right, and making unnecessary financial commitments to him in the hopes he will transfer his assumed yet fake prosperity anointing to them by their "sowing seeds" of money into him.
These "church groupies" will compete among each other for his favor and cling to his every word without questioning or researching it but praising & quoting each utterance as if it came directly from Jesus Christ himself. Wherever there is a proliferation of unchecked false teaching a false lifestyle follows, and no matter what is exposed if you are one of their willingly blind followers then you have endorsed it by your complicity which makes you an accomplice and just as guilty in the eyes of the LORD.
ROMANS 1:32; "Who knowing the judgment of God, that they which commit such things are worthy of death, not only do the same, but have pleasure in them that do them." PSALM 50:18; "When thou sawest a thief, then thou consentedst with him, and hast been partaker with adulterers." 1st TIMOTHY 5:22; "Lay hands suddenly on no man, neither be partaker of other men's sins: keep thyself pure." #CULT
4) He is aloof, distant, almost untouchable, difficult to near impossible to contact if you're not one of his "chosen ones", answers simple questions with super spiritual jargon that makes little to no sense, and acts mysterious when it is completely unnecessary. Their title makes the man and they are nothing without the title so they have to make others believe in it just as much as they do so it basically becomes their identity and name. As part of this whole "super duper" presentation he uses psychological & spiritual manipulation tactics to "puppet string" the desires, loyalties, and emotional state of his followers with the charismatic delivery of his sermons and teachings while completely ignoring the fact they are void of substance.
This level of mind control produces fanatical supporters who'll defend him against anyone no matter the evidence, because often times they are hoping they will be the next "spiritual son" who is placed in his own pastorate by his spiritual daddy, become the "chief armorbearer" or at least among them, be the next "first lady", the new favorite daughter of the "mand of gawd", or they have their own highly ambitious agenda to rise to prominence and the limelight using his name, reputation, and association. Birds of a feather flock together and they all dookie on the same cars so go park yourself somewhere else other than under them.
MATTHEW 23:15; "Woe unto you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! for ye compass sea and land to make one proselyte, and when he is made, ye make him twofold more the child of hell than yourselves." JUDE 1:16; "These are murmurers, complainers, walking after their own lusts; and their mouth speaketh great swelling words, having men's persons in admiration because of advantage." #WOLF
5) He consistently attempts to brainwash, patronize, intimidate, and subjugate other men in the congregation into believing he his the "alpha male" among them. In the thralls of his own lofty delusion he'll purposely call them "son" to sound endearing but really means it to be demeaning. This is much different from him calling the women "daughter" but both are still very subversive in their intent. He'll browbeat them when convenient, use unwarranted or sly pulpit rebukes for personal reasons, and misuses the Holy Scriptures without shame to subconsciously reinforce the idea of his superiority over them and their inferiority compared to him to mask his own insecurities about those he fears or is intimidated by among them as being his equal or greater. They aren't competing with him but he's secretly competing against them.
This behavior often causes many to blindly follow him behind their wives and the other women foolishly thinking they are being obedient to GOD. It also makes the women compare the men against the pastor as the measure of manhood they find desirable. It's all about him but he has to say the name "Jesus" and the titles "Lord", "God", and whatever else is convenient in any language so you will excuse it as being okay and say stupid stuff in his defense like, "Don't judge" or "Judge not that ye be not judged". Please learn what that scripture actually means from someone else besides him so you can use it in proper context. He's counting on your ignorance and awe of him to keep pimping you.
2nd TIMOTHY 3:2-5; "For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, 3) Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good, 4) Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God; 5) Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away." #PHONY
6) The services at their ministry are full of phony miracles, and any little thing from a suddenly disappearing stomach ache (which can easily be relieved by a fart) is magnified into a YouTube video testimony of absolutely nothing, or a Facebook showcase of his mighty "mutant powers". Gold dust, gold teeth fillings and the like, angels feathers, jewelry vomit, instant supernatural weight-loss, instantaneous non-nappiness of the hair into an "Soul Glo Curl", and the sudden appearance of a miracle $3.50 (you forgot you had) is all FAKE! You've been had, led astray, run a muck, hoodwinked, bamboozled, or you're just really really really really really really really gullible and a hint of dumb. Instant super natural weight-loss? Really?
So I can eat whatever I want no matter how unhealthy it or the portions are and another preacher who is perhaps even bigger and more unhealthy than me will pray it away so I can go back and do it all over again? What the heck did I go to the doctor for and why did I buy this gym membership?! This stuff is better than crack cocaine! Reading your Bible, sincere prayer, diligently researching what you hear, and using your God given brain to apply some common sense is a great cure for stupidity caused by spiritual laziness. You are responsible for what you refuse to learn or know and will be held accountable. These pimp preachers aren't simply getting away with what they are doing because they are irresistible or are taking you hostage and forcing you. They get away with it because we let them.
ACTS 17:11; "These were more noble than those in Thessalonica, in that they received the word with all readiness of mind, and searched the scriptures daily, whether those things were so." #STUDY
They use all of this that has been mentioned and more to their advantage to choose from their pick of the litter while also using the dangling of their sublime favor as the proverbial carrot before the horse to hold captive those who treat them as celebrities and want to be around them or be like them to maintain their cult like control. YAH would spare and save them if they would only repent, but sadly many don't see themselves in need of repentance. Why should they repent to a God they are competing with for attention, affection, and worship like they do?
There's an old saying among pimps that says, "Anything goes when it comes to hoes." If you allow anything to go then you are opening yourself up to being treated just like a hoe, and you will be pimped and get nothing for it but worn out for someone else's pleasure and benefit with no reward in this life or the one to come.
Yeshua Messiah died for you because you mean so much more than that to him so don't let a master manipulator with a big title, a big voice, big words, and who is projecting a big lie make you feel or think so small of yourself that you would allow this. A wolf in sheep's clothing is the worst kind of wolf because he hides among the flock and gets close enough to them that they let down their defenses. How you know the difference between the sheep and the wolf is by their diet. A sheep eats grass and a wolf eats the sheep. Flee and be free. If you don't know now you know, shalom! ~ I.J. West aka "The Hitman"